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Personal Growth Coach -What do I do?

When people ask me what I do, I find it difficult to encapsulate in a short amount of time. So I’ve memorized an elevator speech, but it really doesn’t explain what I do or how I do it. And that’s OK most of the time, because that’s not what defines me anyway, but I feel like I could add value to another person’s understanding of  what personal growth is about if I just had more time to explain.

So one of the things I do best is help people make decisions.  Some people call my office usually because they want to make a decision that they are struggling with, or they want to make a career choice or love choice. Many people that I have worked with lately have been young men and some young women who didn’t “pay attention” to certain social situations in college or are just having trouble with decision making. So what do I do? I use NLP and or hypnosis along with the three core coaching questions to help guide them into finding their way with their own inner wisdom. I offer an MP3 called “The Inner Adviser” that is custom made and incorporates a person’s own “map” to assist in visualization and well-formed outcomes. We determine what vocabulary and device to use based upon our time and discussion together. I believe (and I’ve seen the evidence that  it’s true!) that people have their own answers and all they need is to get in touch with that inner voice to find what those answers are.  Sometimes it can be done in two to four sessions, but sometimes it takes longer, depending on the situation. I always teach my clients one or more meditation strategies that can be learned easily but must be utilized in order to be beneficial.

So my elevator speech? “I help people identify their goals and take steps to reach them by providing them with motivation and accountability. I use hypnosis, self-hypnosis and NLP to get them there. I get results for people as they find their own fabulous-ness.”

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Dating Coordinator: What do I do?

It’s funny that is a question that I have been asked several times lately and it occurs to me that I’ve not really answered that here to the degree that it might help you decide if you would like to work with me on your goals.

This year, the clients that I have been working with the most are people who want to date better. My clients are usually (but not always) male, and between 21- 61 years old. For one reason or another they have been out of the dating scene or, have found it to not be very fulfilling and they want more. Some of my clients have a goal of just finding a casual sex partner but others are quite interested in finding someone to become intimate with on more levels than that, and eventually work that into a long term relationship. Believe it or not, there are many men who simply want to settle down. Some want to get married and start a family!

What I do with these clients (both male and female) is to first help them determine their dating goals. Then we spend a great deal talking about whether or not they are interested in online dating. For some clients, they do not want to spend the time or the effort going through all of the formalities and rituals of the “meet and greet” or the back and forth emails that are a part of online dating. Those clients hire me to find the initial contacts for them. I don’t make up fake profiles, but I do search profiles of who they would like to date and try to set up meetings based on availability and the female’s comfort level of meeting via a third party. I am developing a data base of single females at this time and would be happy to add you to it too. Remember, though, you will never be paid to be in my database or accompany a client anywhere.  So send me an email if you have an interest in being a part of that. Any information you provide me at any time is held in the strictest of confidence.

Right now I am looking for single women 22-30 years old and my current clients wish to have a lady who is educated with no children at this time.  This is what I am focused on right now, but that doesn’t mean I can’t add you to the database and keep your information for future use if you don’t happen to fall in that criteria search. 

The clients I work with who are looking for an online dating experience get the full experience once we determine which of the online dating platforms are best for them. Your goals determine which sites we use. We spend a lot of time discussing what type of person you are, what makes you tick and what you want in a mate or a date. Then I have the client create a practice site which uses your own writing voice and skills and after that we edit the profile and make sure that you, the client have portrayed yourself honestly, (being dishonest will get you a lot of attention but it only leads to disappointment and hard feelings later) and we put you in the best light that highlights your strengths and downplays your weaknesses. We take as many photos as we need to make you look good with your best visual assets. We talk a lot about how to lead as a man in conversation and in the dating game. It doesn’t have to be stressful and it can be a lot of fun if you have the right mindset.

If it is confidence that is lacking in the man or woman who wants to date more successfully, then we can work on that with or without hypnotic trance. Whatever it is in your way of your goals, we can identify them and get them out of the way ASAP!

So in dating and finding love, this is the role I take as coach. I help people who want to find love. If this sounds like what you want, email me and we can start next week!  


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